A parent's ability to be able to see and understand things through the eyes of their child is fundamental. The child will come to feel truly known by the parent, and the parent helps him to make sense of what surrounds him. And where can true comfort be found? True comfort arises from the knowledge of relationship that is based on trust. And what about the needs of the child of the past that dwells inside each 'adult' state. This book opens up a whole new world of understanding for parents and carers.